Have you struggled to enjoy sexual intimacy in your marriage? Do you find yourself avoiding sex or resisting your husband’s efforts to have more variety in the bedroom? Have you started to address your sexual struggles in the past, only to give up when you’ve felt overwhelmed or hopeless?

You are not alone.

I’ve been there, too. (You can read a little of my story here.) Working on sex is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done–and it was completely worth every ounce of effort I put into it.

It was such a lonely journey.

I wanted to want to have sex. I just didn’t know how to move forward.

After I plodded through my sexual improvement for a couple years, I started The Forgiven Wife blog so other wives would know that they aren’t alone and to have some help figuring out how to make changes. And then I started the Honeycomb & Spice community, so women could connect with others who can encourage and support them.

Intimacy Mentoring brings individual support and community together.

Is Intimacy Mentoring for you?

Intimacy Mentoring might be right for you if you can answer “yes” to any of these questions:

• Could you use help figuring out your first steps, or your next steps, to work on sex?
• Would you like support and encouragement as you address your issues with sex?
• Do you find it helpful to be surrounded by Christian sisters on a similar journey?
• Would you benefit from someone who gently challenges you and holds you accountable for your efforts?
• Do you want to feel less alone in this journey?

Intimacy Mentoring might not be a good fit for you if . . .

• Your husband is in persistent and unrepentant sin against you or if he is demanding or controlling. Although sex might be a problem in your marriage, it probably isn’t the main problem.
• Past trauma is a big part of your current struggles with sex. Whether it is childhood abuse, sexual assault as an adult, or growing up in a family with an alcoholic or angry parent, those experiences require support from someone who is trained in those areas. Intimacy Mentoring will work better for you once you’ve begun working through your past trauma.

Who am I to help you?

I am not a trained counselor, certified life coach, therapist, or pastor.

Who I am is . . .

• A wife who allowed God to transform her views on sex and in return found a transformed marriage.
• A Christian who has written and spoken a great deal about sexual intimacy in Christian marriages.
• A woman in the Titus 2 season of life.
• An encourager and a listener.
• A travel companion for your journey to address sex.
• Your Christian sister.

In the years I’ve written my blog, I have worked with hundreds of wives who have reached out to me with questions and to comment that they are so glad to know they aren’t alone.

I can walk alongside you as you travel this journey toward healthier and happier sexual intimacy in your marriage.

And wait, there’s more!

I believe that while you can accomplish some progress with me alone, you can accomplish even more within a community of other Christian wives walking a similar journey. Therefore, part of this mentoring will take place in a private Circle within my Honeycomb & Spice community.  

Some of our work will happen one-on-one, such as goal-setting and accountability. Other things will happen in the group, like posts and discussions, a monthly group chat, and opportunities to ask others for advice and share success stories.

The community will vary from time to time as members come and go. You may have just another member in there with you, or you might see a huge crowd. Fortunately, both large and small groups have their benefits.

What can you expect?

As part of the Intimacy Mentoring program, you will get both group support and individual assistance and guidance.

Here’s what you’ll receive:

• Access to the private Intimacy Mentoring Circle within the Honeycomb & Spice community.
• Encouragement posted several times a week in the community.
• A monthly group chat event.
• One-on-one help setting goals and determining next steps.
• Monthly accountability check-ins.

If you want to make genuine changes in the area of sex, you’ll need to do some good work on yourself—and it’s work that takes time and perseverance. Intimacy Mentoring should help, but you are the one who will do the heavy lifting.

Here’s what you should plan to do:

• Give a full year commitment to the program.
• Participate in the Intimacy Mentoring Circle on Honeycomb & Spice.
• Be willing to do the hard work: look at your struggles, own what is yours to own, pursue healing, make an effort to make positive changes, etc.
• Be respectful of your husband, both in how you speak of him in the program and in allowing him time and space to heal from his own hurt in your marriage.

How can you get started?

Because the program requires a full-year commitment, only annual subscriptions are available.

For current members of the Honeycomb & Spice community, the annual price is $119.99. The cost for non-members is $139.99, which includes membership in the Honeycomb & Spice community.

Payments are processed through Stripe, a third-party payment partner, to ensure secure processing.

Still not sure?

If you’ve followed me at The Forgiven Wife for any length of time, you already know me pretty well. I’m open and transparent there! If you’re new to me, I invite you to read about my own journey toward sexual healing and wholeness.

You can find my story here:

• Sexual Healing and Wholeness – Introduction to My Story
• Sexual Disintegrity – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #1
• Sexual Stewardship – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #2
• Sexual Invocation – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #3

The Intimacy Mentoring program is designed for women who have struggled to enjoy sex in their marriages and are ready to work toward change and growth.

Maybe you aren’t quite there. That’s okay.

If you want something less intense than Intimacy Mentoring, you might want to try the Passion Pursuit study with me. I run the study every fall and spring; you can also choose an individual email option.

Still too much? Try to spend some time reading my blog and listening to the Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast I do with three other Christian sex and marriage experts.

If you’ve struggled with sex for a long time, then even a small effort is a step in the right direction.

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Not the right fit?

Although many wives struggle with sex, maybe in your marriage you want sex more than your husband does—or your struggle has to do with something going on with your husband.

Check out these other communities that may fit your needs better:

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