It’s less than three weeks until Valentine’s Day.
Is your Valentine’s Day usually a loving celebration of your relationship with your husband? Or does it tend to be a difficult day that you just want to get through without too much disappointment?
Although I think every woman should be treated like a queen on Valentine’s Day, her husband should come away feeling like a king or a hero, not like her servant.
Valentine’s Day should be a day of romance for both you and your husband. You should both end the day feeling loved in a way that matters to you.
I want to keep this uncomplicated, so I’m going to give you two simple tips that can boost your Valentine’s Day from ho-hum to oo-lal-la.
To Make It Great for You
As much as we may want our husbands to be mind readers (or is that just me?), they aren’t—and it’s unfair for us to expect them to be.
Instead of hoping your husband gets it right, try this one simple thing:
Clearly tell your husband what you would like.
Don’t drop hints, such as commenting during a restaurant commercial that you love that place or that you wonder why you haven’t tried their curbside pickup yet.
If you have preferences about flowers, chocolate, or whatever else speaks romance to you, help him remember. That doesn’t mean you should be demanding. However, suggesting some options (“I love flower bouquets with lots of colors” or “I’d love to have something new for dinner”) lets him make a decision that he knows you will like.
Most husbands really want to make their wives happy. When they get it right, they feel like a hero. So ladies, let’s make it easy for our guys, okay?
To Make It Great for Him
I’ve heard plenty of husbands say that Valentine’s Day can be a bit stressful for them.
Here’s what they say:
- People talk about Valentine’s Day as though it’s all about the women. So many commercials focus on giving her the romance she wants. Sometimes our men feel a little left out.
- They are afraid they will fail to meet their wife’s expectations, which can make the whole day a little stressful.
- Husbands like romance, too—and because sex is a powerful means of emotional connection for so many men, romance and sex are intertwined with each other. Romance includes sex.
Put together, our husbands feel a great deal of pressure to “get it right,” and they have some anxiety wondering if they will get to experience the kind of romance they enjoy.
Wouldn’t it be great if you could find a way to help your husband feel loved and not be stressed about whether he will be sexually rejected on a day when he’s working so hard to provide some romance for you?
Fortunately, there IS a way to do this, and it’s simple:
Initiate sex in the morning.
When you initiate sex, your husband feels loved and desired. Initiating any time of day can speak powerfully to his heart. If you do it when you first wake up, he’ll feel loved the whole day long—and he won’t be stressed about whether he gets to make love with you on Valentine’s Day. If morning doesn’t work, then plan for sex at the beginning of your Valentine’s Day festivities, such as before dinner.
That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do some other special things to romance your husband on Valentine’s Day, but it’s a fantastic way to start.
If you aren’t sure where to start when it comes to romancing your husband or initiate sex, these posts are full of ideas!
- 10 Ideas You Can Use to Initiate Sex
- 21 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Spouse, One Extraordinary Marriage
- Do One Thing for Your Husband on Valentine’s Day, Calm. Healthy. Sexy.
- Does He Just Want Sex for Valentine’s Day? Hot, Holy & Humorous
- Get Ready for Valentine’s Day! The Forgiven Wife
- Give Your Husband a Sexy Surprise, The Forgiven Wife
- How Do You Initiate Sex?
- Take Charge of Date Night, The Forgiven Wife
- Valentine Expectations, The Generous Wife
- What Men Have to Say about Romance, iMom
- What to Get Your Husband for V-Day, Hot, Holy & Humorous
- When He Wants You to Initiate
- When You Initiate, Do This
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