Sexually Tease Your Husband

February 19, 2021Adding Spice, Sexy Fun

Sexually teasing your husband can help engage both your minds and your bodies, setting the stage for some steamy sex. It serves as foreplay, invitation, and promise.

Playful sexual teasing creates a good kind of sexual tension between a husband and wife.

To tease someone is to attempt to provoke them. Sexual teasing is an attempt to get someone stirred up sexually.

Biblical Examples of Sexual Teasing

Teasing in general may not sound very nice, but within marriage, sexual teasing can be a very good thing—as long as you follow through with what you start!

In fact, when I read Song of Songs, I see a whole lot of sexual teasing going on. Here are just a few examples:

I am a rose of Sharon, a lily of the valleys. Song of Songs 2:1

My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag. Song of Songs 2:9

Until the day breaks and the shadows turn, my beloved, and be like a gazelle or like a young stag on the rugged hills. Song of Songs 2:17

Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread everywhere. Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits. Song of Songs 4:16

The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved. Song of Songs 7:13

These verses show comments about his virility, her femininity, sexual euphemism and innuendo, and ideas for upcoming sexual encounters. They demonstrate sexual interest, attraction, and commitment. They prompt the spouse to think sexually and look forward to the couple’s next sexual encounter.

Ideas for You to Try

Friends, I encourage you to sexually tease your husband this weekend.

Here are some ways you can put the Song of Songs examples into practice in your own marriage.

When you eat something yummy, make soft moaning sounds. (Bonus points if you’re eating something phallic-shaped, such as a banana, hot dog, or lollipop.)
Comment on your husband’s masculine characteristics, such as strength, virility, facial hair, and so on.
Comment on your own feminine characteristics (especially ones that he has commented on in the past).
Mention something you want to do later (or want your husband to do), making it sound non-sexual even though it’s clearly sexual. (“Hey, sweetie, do you think you could check that scar on my backside later today?”)
When only your husband is looking, briefly unbutton or unzip your clothing.
Shake your booty when you’re bending over. Even better, look for a reason to bend over simply for the purpose of giving him a glimpse of your rear.
Caress your husband between the legs when he least expects it. You can even say something like, “Oops, I was looking for your hand.”
Send him a suggestive text.
Send him a picture of your lingerie lying on the bed, with a caption like “Can’t wait for you to get home so I can put this on and you can take it off.”
When you’re removing any item of clothing (even your shoes), do it like you’re doing a strip tease. You can even toss it to your husband to make sure he understands what you’re doing.
Whisper something sexy to him when you’re out in public.
Make a sexual innuendo.
If you are eating food that is phallic in shape look deep into your husband’s eyes while you lick the food or put it into your mouth.
Unbutton an extra button or two on your blouse around the house or in the car.
When your husband says something, try to respond to it as if it is a sexual comment. Him: “Do you know where the nails are?” You: “No, but I know something else you can pound.” (Yes, I know that is a kind of crass example. Make sure you are using language that works in your own marriage.)

If you’d like more ideas, check out the suggestions in 10 Ideas You Can Use to Initiate Sex and How Do You Initiate Sex?

The Importance of Follow-Through

Sexual teasing should lead to its natural conclusion. If you’re teasing and provoking without the intention of following through, you are being mean. Go ahead and get your husband (and you) riled up—and then make sure you follow through with sex.

Sexually teasing your husband can help engage both your minds and your bodies, setting the stage for some steamy sex.

It serves as foreplay, an invitation, and a promise.

Come away, my beloved, and be like a gazelle or like a young stag on the spice-laden mountains. Song of Songs 8:14