Choosing Growth
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A Year in the Life
My husband died nearly one year ago, and it’s been, well, weird. I thought I’d let you know what I’ve been doing and what things look like going forward. I […]
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Practice, Practice, Practice
If it's hard to make sexual changes, look for ways to practice in nonsexual contexts.
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Join Me for a Study!
Join me in the Honeycomb & Spice community for a study of Juli Slattery's book God, Sex, and Your Marriage. We'll start the week of February 25 and wrap up in May.
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The Best Time for Birthday Sex
When is the best time for birthday sex for your husband? Obviously it's on his birthday—but bedtime might not be the best time for it.
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The Purpose of the Pendulum
The purpose of the pendulum is to seek equilibrium and balance, not to just swing from one extreme to the other. Likewise, making changes in marriage should involve the pursuit of balance in God's truth, not just doing something differently.
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Stained Glass
Consider the messages you learned about marriage and sex while you were growing up. Was it all gloom and doom and self-sacrifice? Or was your learning filled with hope and joy?
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In the Shadow of His Wings
Sometimes it’s just hard to show up and do all the work to grow and change, especially when you’re dealing with other things in life. When this happens, it’s okay to pause for a bit while building yourself back to the point where you are restored enough to proceed again.
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Approach Your Sex Life Like It’s a Jigsaw Puzzle
There is no one right way to revive your sexuality and your sexual intimacy. In fact, you may find that there are lots of right ways that work for you.
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Are You Normal?
The question “Am I normal?” isn’t the best question to ask, but it often points us to areas that need our attention.
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Work on Yourself (Even if Your Husband Is the Problem)
Working on yourself is always worth doing. And if you and your husband are both generally good-willed people, it just might be good for your marriage too.
